Qualified Neutral under Minnesota Court Rule 114 for Mediation and Arbitration
"Collaborative Law" "Uncontested Divorce" "Divorce With Dignity"
"Constructive Divorce" "Uncoupling" "Cooperative Divorce"
Some basic
information
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Many mature couples have found that they could go their
separate ways without creating a devastation in the process. By focusing on
the issues and avoiding needless confrontation and uncooperativeness,
divorce can frequently be completed with less expense and grief, and more
quickly, without resorting to the court for hearings and decisions on the
issues. This approach is sometimes referred to as "uncontested divorce,"
"divorce with dignity," "collaborative divorce," "cooperative divorce," or
by other terms.
Exploring ways to minimize unnecessary expense and conflict in divorce is one goal of the Hasselbrink Law Office.
In Minnesota, "fault" is no longer at issue. If one
party desires to dissolve a marriage which is irretrievably broken, then a
divorce will ultimately be granted and each person will be free to marry
again. Thus, the parties can concentrate not upon the problems with the
relationship, and past wrongs, but upon how to divide up the
responsibilities and assets.
What should each party be considering?
Here is a short list:
Responsibilities toward the children.
Payment of debts.
Maintaining insurance.
Fairly dividing assets.
There are many techniques for adjusting
your perspective. For example, you might try to view divorce as similar to
dissolving a business; that is, what have the two of you put together, and
how can you fairly divide it up (both the negatives and the
positives)?
Another approach might be to focus upon acting toward the
other person as you would like him or her to act toward you.
Yet
another approach is to undertake joint mediation, in which the true issues
can emerge and be explored with the guidance of a trained
mediator.
You may feel a need to fully explore your emotions, or
perhaps you are ready to "just get the paperwork done."
There are
many professionals available to help you and any children meet the personal
demands of divorce.
The Role of the Attorney. You may benefit
from discussing your situation with at least one attorney who emphasizes
cooperative divorce where appropriate. Chances are that you are not fully
informed about the options for completing a divorce.
You may not be aware, for example, that you can reach your own private
agreement about most, or perhaps all issues, and thereby reduce the role of
the judge and court system.
You may be unaware that, in Minnesota at least, "serving the divorce
papers" is often unnecessary and only serves to inject hostility at the very
beginning of what might be much better handled in a more low-key way.
You may not realize that aggressive tactics will not necessarily lead to
a better settlement and may actually be counter-productive.
In my
experience, many families can benefit from the "cool-heads" approach offered
by an attorney practicing cooperative techniques in divorce. Although the
attorney generally cannot "represent" both parties, nonetheless, the
attorney can discuss your situation and help you make intelligent choices as
you move the process along in a constructive way.
A Final Word Of
Information. If you are exploring divorce, you owe it to yourself to consider
all the options. Thanks to recent law reforms, today's divorces can often be
handled without the expense and conflict that marked divorce in years past.
You owe it to yourself and your family to explore the
alternatives.
"Inherit the Wind"? I always emphasize that you
try to look beyond the current difficult times. Your attorney may be able to
help achieve a more satisfactory resolution and also help establish a
workable relationship for the future. Engaging in battle may not be the
wisest course--neither gaining you more nor providing for a better
future.
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Never attempt to handle a dissolution
without an attorney.
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GERALD HASSELBRINK, Attorney at Law
of the Minnesota Bar and United States District Court
Qualified Neutral under Minnesota Court Rule 114 for Mediation and Arbitration
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PRACTICING FAMILY LAW AND COOPERATIVE DIVORCE IN CENTRAL MINNESOTA
MEDIATION, ARBITRATION, AND OTHER PRIVATE DISPUTE RESOLUTION THROUGHOUT MINNESOTA
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